Building a Child
Our personality structure and how we perceive ourselves are shaped by the sense of self we acquire in childhood. The environment in which we grow up in childhood and how we are treated determine this perception. This perception, which we carry with us throughout our lives, also determines our relationships with others, our reactions to events, and even what kind of parents and spouses we will be. A child who grows up in a respectful family environment perceives themselves as "respectable." In their adult life, they behave respectfully towards others and expect to be treated with respect themselves. A child who has not received much value from their family, has been subjected to disrespectful accusations, has been labeled lazy by their teacher, and has been excluded from games by their friends develops a sense of worthlessness. Even if they receive value in their adult years, they cannot comprehend it and do not accept it from themselves. It feels normal to them to treat others, their spouse, and their child in the same way they were treated as children.
For Happy Children Who Feel Valued
We should view child-rearing not as constantly warning and correcting the child, but as creating a family environment where they feel good and loved unconditionally.
